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Thursday, September 6, 2012

Walking Is Good

I'd love to tell you that I did exceptionally well this week, but that's just not the case.  I did in fact lose 0.6 lbs, bringing my total to 43.8, so I am definitely proud of that.  Today marked my 25th week of being on Weight Watchers and I'm averaging 1.2 lbs of weight loss each week.  That's definitely in the healthy range of weight loss, but if you're like me... you would want more!!!

Well, to be honest... in order to get more, you've got to give more.  For the last two weeks, I have lost.  I've actually lost 3.4 lbs which is great...  BUT not deserved.  I have not been as "on track" as I have been for the majority of my 25 weeks.  I will take these losses, but challenge them back.

I want to hit my 45 lb weight loss mark next week so that I can post another picture of myself for you.  Trying to do it every 5lb's so that you can see the progress.  So that's my goal.

Now to get onto the good stuff... the REAL stuff.  I've had many many conversations with people already through this journey and I have to tell you.  You have to want it, you have to want it bad.  You can't rely on anyone else but yourself.  It's great having the support, and I do have that, but honestly if I'm not losing weight or not eating as good as I "want" to... I cannot blame anyone but myself.

I have a friend that I talk with on a regular basis.  We use each other to "discuss" what we've done, what we need to do and how we can do it better.  She relies heavily on her husband to help her... or did.  She would tell me how upset she would get because he's not helping her cut up the veggies when they get home from the grocery store, he's not helping with making and planning the meals, he's not this - he's not that!  I was getting a little frustrated with her but didn't know how to express that without coming across like a total bitch (sorry if you're reading this friend, but unfortunately it's true).  I mean seriously, it's not up to him to lose your weight.

This is exactly what I mean by you need to want it.  Others can want it just as bad for you (MOM I'm talking to you) but you need to make that decision, you need to want it, it's all YOU.  Not anyone else but YOU!

So, instead of pointing fingers and saying something rude that I wouldn't mean... and I definitely didn't want it to come across like that, I explained how I'm doing it.  My husband is super supportive.  He doesn't complain about what I'm eating, making, etc.  BUT he's not helping me DO anything.  He hasn't been to the grocery store for real grocery shopping in YEARS.  I do all of that.  If I don't cut up the veggies, he doesn't eat them.  If I don't plan the meals, we eat crap.  So really, I'm doing it all myself.  I'm not relying on him for that at all.  BUT what he is doing is not complaining.  So by explaining that to her, I think I broke through... but then the weekends hit.

I'm not a drinker by any means.  I used to be, don't get me wrong... I put on that freshman 50 (I know it's supposed to be 15, but in my case it was 50).  I definitely choose food over alcohol... but sounds like that's more difficult for her.  But she did say, the last time she lost a lot of weight she was NOT drinking as much.  She also makes bad choices... more often than not (from what I gather).  However, that all seems to be changing for her too.  So that's awesome and I will be there for support as long as she needs it.

However, I do get disappointed when I hear some of the stories and excuses.  I totally own up to what I put in my mouth, I write everything down (by write, I mean track on my phone and computers), I follow plan more than not.  BUT what I don't do is get my exercise in like I would like to.  Yes, the last few weeks I have... but there have been special occasions where we're friggin' walking all over hell and creation... but not for exercise.  It's for the fair, the zoo, the market, etc.

I am all for supporting people, I truly am.  But I do and will get tired of it if I keep finding out that we talk about things and motivation only sticks for a day or so.  I get drained from that.  Just drained.  Fortunately right now I'm still in my honeymoon period and hoping that lasts until I get to goal where then I make better choices because I feel soooooooo damn good!

Anyway... sorry for such a negative post today but I hope it helps.  Hope you're not talkin' the talk but not walkin' the walk.  It's all up to you.  You are the only one that can change you and everyone around that needs to know and understand that.  You cannot rely on anyone else making good choices for you... you know why?  You will RESENT them.

MOVING ON... goals this week:
Well this is a month goal... I will get to the gym 8 times this month.  I will work out 3x this week... a real work out... not just this unplanned walking shit.

Challenges this week:  I think I'm going to be alone this weekend.  NEVER good for me... I end up splurging at least one day.  I'm a closet eater :(  UGHHHH, I admitted it.  And after all the ranting I did above.  However, I will keep within my points 5 of the 7 days and only allow myself to go over on points 2 times this week.  By over 2 times this week, means I still need to stay within my "Extra" weekly allowance and I will NOT use my exercise points as extra weekly allowance points.

I will probably have one more post over the weekend... I'm awaiting my assessment of my ActiveLink device (had to restart it on sat because it would have been so very off from all the activity I fit in over the weekend).  SUPER excited to see that.  Should be Sunday when I know more.

Take care all... leave me a comment (I accept anonymous comments) if there's a topic that you'd like me to address next week.  Have a great week and remember... It's all on YOU, NO ONE ELSE BUT YOU.

I can't wait until I'm Healthfully Ever After!


  1. As people mean well and want things for you.... one must take on the responsibility of making the choices and making your goals come true yourself - no one can do it for you, as much as some of us would like to be able to - it's not possible. Accepting responsibility for one self and for one's actions is freeing sometimes but sometimes its a LOT OF WORK! Blaming someone else or something else just uses up energy and the consequences are negative energy and results.

  2. I agree- this is my journey- it is important and wonderful to have cheerleaders beside me, but I have to be the one making the right choices- it does not matter what someone wants for me- I have to want it. Thanks for the reminder that I am not alone.